Does your partner attempt to control you? Or hides anger and has a fear of confrontation and has an inability to deal straight with people?
If the answer is YES then you are dealing with a passive-aggressive partner and you should do something about it. Your partner may have not learned how to be in an equal, mature relationship because of unresolved personal pain and repressed anger from childhood. There are also other causes of having such personality disorder. It refers to behavior that results in unalterable and unchangeable attitude towards the environment as well as the people around the person.
There are symptoms such as:
- disagreeing with other people’s wishes and beliefs
- forgetting, complaining, disliking other people’s ideas
- giving sarcastic comments
- blaming other people
Your partner might have a hard time adjusting and creating relationships with people around him. But you, as a partner, can help. It takes a lot of effort and understanding. Don’t expect too much of anything fundamental from him. You have to understand that being passive aggressive, is having an unhealthy personality.
Having a companion to share beautiful moments is something that you want in your life. But at some point, you start noticing that your companion is always uneasy, upset, and insecure with just about anything. You have to be aware of the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors provoked by his procrastinating behavior.
What would you do? Will you take the risk of entering the most difficult relationship? The two of you must help one another in finding out the cause of your conflicting situation. It is also a part of your relationship that you make your partner realize that there is an existing problem between the two of you.
A passive aggressive person is normally self motivated. So it is all up to your partner if he decides to change. Your partner must focus on every day problems and solutions. He must understand himself first before anything else. You must also help your partner establish control to lessen passive aggressive actions.
If you are spending too much time in a relationship that lacks intimacy, closeness nor cooperation, take a good look at your need to live with conflict. If you feel that you have done everything you can to save the relationship, and it seems that there is no significant change at all, consider leaving to find a better relationship. Or just simply accept that things will not change because that is the way he is, then try live a happy life anyway.
To your happiness,
Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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